Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Bedtime Stories for Couples

I've always felt that the most important time with my husband is bedtime. There's something special in those last few minutes before sleep that is not shared with the rest of the world. Sleepy reminiscences of the day, telling each other our challenges and plans for the week, and snuggling up as our eyes are closing... these moments are so totally ordinary, and yet they forge a bond of intimacy that strengthens our relationship to meet the demands of life as a team.

It can be a real challenge when schedules conflict, or when babies are demanding. Maybe there are a million little things than can be caught up on "if I just stay up a few more hours," but if those precious times with my husband aren't given priority it's not long before I start to feel like a one-person-show. The reality is that more often than not the urgent little things that steal away my time and attention are inanities like eBay, email, and chores that could wait until tomorrow. What do these things matter in the big picture, while my marriage is taking a back seat?

We've all heard that the most important things in life aren't things, they're relationships. Relationships with our children, our spouse, and God. Family and friends. Neighbours. Every person needs connection, and many people are depressed because they don't have it. In the same way that spare change, when saved diligently over a long period, adds up to something significant, so the ordinary bedtime stories shared with my spouse, night after night, add up to a solid relationship and a strong connection.

I hope you take time to share the ordinary things with people you love. Make it a habit. And no matter what else is demanding your attention or energy, keep investing in your relationships.


  1. AMEN! Besides, for young or old, bedtime stories are supposed to be fun!

    But, seriously, if we don't know the precious priority of our own relationships at home before all others, we are rather poor at heart. Thanks for the reminder, Sarah!

  2. Cheryl MacMillanMarch 4, 2009 at 2:04 PM

    Ouch... Are those tears of regret stinging my eyes? Sarah, you are so totally and absolutely right.

  3. Thanks for reminding me how important it is to communicate more to my husband. The baby can really let things in the marriage department take a backseat. It's always one day at a time.


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